I love my sweet brides and planning every single detail with them. But I like seeing my grooms involved too! Brides, if your husband-to-be is one of those guys who likes to sit back and say, “It’s your day honey, so do whatever you want,” then you may be having difficulties getting him involved in planning. First, talk to him about your feelings, remind him that the day is about the two of you, and share that you would really appreciate his input in some tasks.
Next, cater to his interest and skills. If he is a foodie or adamant about having an open bar at the reception, ask him to research various caterers. Bring him along to the cake and food tastings because, seriously y’all, what guy doesn’t love food? If he is a huge car fanatic, ask him to choose the getaway car. Ask him put his accounting degree to work and put your budget into a handy spreadsheet. Maybe he is always telling you about new songs he has heard.. put him in charge of finding the perfect band or DJ for your reception.
Instead of asking his opinion on 100 different things, offer him choices. He may not really care about the design aspects of the wedding (style, colors, linens, fashion, flowers, etc.), but you can still gain his input. For example, instead of asking what he wants his groomsmen to wear, offer him two or three suggestions and have him pick his favorite. You know you’ll like his pick because it was one of your [many] ideas and he will feel included.
If all else fails, have him take over the honeymoon planning. He can research locations, airline and resort prices, and activities in the area. After all, a bride can only do so much!
Brides, are you having a hard time planning with your groom?
