When you first meet with your potential wedding vendors and creative partners, it is very similar to going on a first date. I know it sounds silly, but it’s true! I checked out EHarmony’s 5 Telltale Signs of Great First Dates, and it’s surprising how well they apply to your first fall-in-love vendor meetings.
Positive Anticipation: You know those little butterflies you feel before a first date? The thoughts of what might happen, what you should wear, and the hope that you two hit it off? All of these should be present before your first meeting with a potential wedding vendor. You may have chatted on the phone a few times and gotten a little bit of information about your vendor, but that first meeting is when everything comes together; it’s absolutely normal to feel a little nervous! Remember: just like a first date, your first vendor meeting is a time to feel each other out and get some more information. It doesn’t have to lead to a commitment – it’s all about finding that chemistry.
Relative Ease: Just like a first date, the initial minutes of the first meeting with your vendor might be a little awkward. Icebreaker conversations about shared acquaintances are completely normal, but as your meeting goes on, you should become more comfortable and relaxed. Meeting with a vendor should be enjoyable whether the two of you are chatting over coffee or sitting in an office. If you feel relaxed and at ease with the vendor by the end of your meeting, you may want to take the next step in your relationship.
Mutual Curiosity: When chemistry is present on a date or in a vendor meeting, both parties should be curious about the other. First dates are a time to discover information about the other person, tell stories, and ask questions and this is no different from a first meeting with a vendor. You should be chatting it up and getting to know one another. Pay attention to how they conduct the meeting and their attitudes and opinions – if their style jives with yours, they me be the vendor of your dreams.
Great Endings: Being reluctant to end a first date is a good sign, and the same can be said for a first meeting with a vendor. At the end of your meeting, you should feel excited and happy – but you may want to skip that goodnight kiss (ha!). If you’ve found the vendor for you, you should be eager to start the planning process with him or her.
Even Greater Follow-Up: Commitments don’t have to be made on a first date, and they don’t have to be made during a first vendor meeting either. If you had a great consultation with your vendor, or even if it turned sour, follow-up is crucial. Make sure to call or send an e-mail in a timely manner thanking them for taking the time to meet with you, and if you think he or she is the one for you, be sure to let them know. It’s a good idea to set up another meeting, or at least make it clear that you’d love to work with the vendor to make your big day as fabulous as possible.
If you keep these 5 great tips in mind as you pick your wedding vendors, you may just find that your next great relationship is only a meeting away!